How to avoid a toxic divorce
Finalizing a divorce is typically a joyous occasion. One Texas woman celebrated her divorce by tying a bunch of explosives to her wedding dress and setting it off.
The end brings a sense of elation. However, you still need to get through the divorce itself, which can be particularly toxic. You may have ended the marriage on bad terms, but you still need to work together with your spouse for the time being. Here are some of the ways to make divorce far more manageable.
Take care of yourself
First and foremost, you need to make sure you are in a good state of mind before seeing your attorney or meeting with your spouse. You will go through a lot of emotions during a divorce, no matter how confident you feel that this is the right thing. Although you have a lot to do during this time, you should still carve out time during the day to do what you enjoy. This can include reading or practicing yoga. Ultimately, you should still engage in your favorite hobbies to take care of your emotional health.
Remain open to compromise
During your marriage, you and your spouse likely acquired a lot. You have to decide who gets the house, the car, any paintings and other valuable possessions. You may want everything, but you need to remember what you can reasonably use once you are single. If you cannot afford the mortgage payments on your own, then you may not want the house. You need to think critically, which may not be easy when emotions cloud your judgment.
Look toward the future
The divorce process can last months or even years. It will be a long and arduous time, and you need to be ready for the long haul. You have to remember that you will be much happier at the end to make it.